Shawn Mendes opens up about his sex and how he has handled rumors about it since he was a teenager.
“So, I’ve been calling myself gay since I was 15. I’m not gay, I’m like, ‘Well, what does that mean?’ ‘Shared 22-year-old Doc Shepherd in an episode of Podcast Arm chair expert. “I had these problems with the way my voice sounded, how could I be sitting? ‘I would always cross my legs and sit like this feminine style position, I really suffered ***.”
Mendes explained how this speculation called into question his general personality and made him think about what he was expected to do as a male musician. “I really want to be confused. I have to apologize for saying the wrong things and say the right thing after apologizing. I’m confused about how to respond when people say I’m gay,” he said.
Most importantly, however, he was concerned about the harm that public discourse and humiliation might actually do to people who fight or come with their sexuality.
“It was very frustrating for me because I was so close to some people in my life who were gay and in the closet, I felt this real anger for those people. I don’t know, I say this is a tricky thing. You want to say I’m not gay, but It would be nice if I was gay, but there is nothing wrong with being gay, but I am not. You do not know how to respond to the situation, “he said.” But I have to be really open as it turned out to be a kind of thing, because I want a lot of guys. I think they go through that. Worse than that, there are so many guys who are gay and in the closet, you have to hear something like that, I’m afraid to come out. “
Mendes grew up in Canada with his sister and female cousins, which also affected his identity. “I didn’t grow up in wrestling. On New Year’s Day I grew my hair braided. It depends on how you grew up, your life, your surroundings. ”He shared how he tried to embrace his“ middle ground ”identity, comparing himself to Freddie Mercury. “But I’m not there either,” he admitted. “I’m a little more luxurious, so I don’t know. It’s all confusing, so I’ll just leave it at that.”
He acknowledged that the media portrays the expectations placed on men and its relationships, while sharing this with his girlfriend Camila Capello on his own has allowed him to express his influence in a healthy way. “I know my friends’ relationships for sure, ‘How I feel, I cry, my girlfriend doesn’t want to tell her things around her, I just want her to be strong,’ he explained. “I’m in a relationship like my girlfriend, ‘We’m going to be in bed, you’re going to put your head on my chest, you’m going to cry on my chest, you’re going to tell me how you feel because if you do not do that, you’re going to be a ** hole next week I’m not going to deal with it ***. ‘So I’m lucky in that relationship. ”
“I think people will quickly say,‘ He’s an artist, so he gets a pass that can be vulnerable and a pass to cry, but not like most guys, ’he responded. “Friends need to be hurt. We need to cry. Stop thinking it’s brave and strong and start thinking it’s really the opposite. We’re holding on to these emotions, not crying, ** holes. There’s nothing good about it.”
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